A letter to myself #1
Dear Chen:
It has been a long journey for you to travel in the past 31 years. You have endured lots of struggles and pain in your childhood and adulthood.
Your parents have lived through their pain and struggles. They have managed to overcome some of them. But they also passed on those they failed to process on their own.
What happened to you is not your fault. It is not entirely their fault either. Some days in life, bad things can happen to good people. We are all trying our best to navigate the challenges, pain, and losses that life places on us.
You are good enough as you are right now.
We will always have expectations of ourselves and others. We all want to be better people, to love and be loved, to be kind and compassionate.
However, it is important to remember that those expectations are guidelines for our lives. There will be gaps between what we expected and what happened. Try not to hold too much resentment towards yourself or others when the reality falls short of expectations.
As Mister Rogers once said, “ Some days, doing "the best we can" may still fall short of what we would like to be able to do, but life isn't perfect on any front-and doing what we can with what we have is the most we should expect of ourselves or anyone else.”
Treat others as you want to be treated. Love yourself as you want to be loved.
(It is a beautiful day outside today. I hope you will schedule some time to go out and enjoy the sun and the beautiful spring spirit that nature gifts us. )
Love,
Chen